19:05
Lena Batina
There is a big fight and big political
crisis in Ukraine right now. The evil exposed itself, what was hidden and
happening in prisons came in public to the streets and squares. It shocked the
country, kidnaping of the leaders of euromaydan, tortures, main streets of Kiev
capital of the country in fire. Inability to come to understanding, to hear
people, reluctance to act on behalf of people brought the waves of violence and
terror. What started like a peaceful demonstration of disagreement with customs
union with Russia turned to an opposition and fight. In such unstable situation
many people think of running out of country.
I want to share one story of recent
counseling session.
The phone rang. Schedule for that day was
full. On the other side of the phone girl was looking for abortion. She wanted
do it today. So we invited her to come. The plan changed for the next few hours
for the center. We moved counseling session with Life Skills program to the
office space so the only one counseling room could be ready for the abortion
mind client.
A beautiful blond girl came in with her
boyfriend. She felt hot in spite of the – 17 degree C outside, one of the
coldest day of the month. Obviously she was in distress due to situation. She
closed the door in the counseling room after herself, showing she needed
confidentiality even from the boyfriend. Karina’s test was positive. She found
about her pregnancy 3 days ago and she wanted abortion. She found information
about early abortion on the web-site. She had different plan for her life then
being a mother, she wanted to move to United State of America to her parents.
And her boyfriend didn’t know about her plan. They have been living together for
last three months. She was not happy about his low income. She found out he was
not the person she expected him to be. “Karina, if I got you right, you moved
living together before you knew the person well”? – I asked. She answered that
she was unlucky with her boyfriends; the first one was abusive man. “How about
your father”? – I asked. - “ He was violent man. My mother devoiced him, while I
was 7. I lived with a stepfather, who wasn’t good man. My mother devoiced him
too. Now she got marriage for decent man and moved to State. She is not happy
about me being pregnant, she think that abortion will give me chance to study
and build a carrier.” “How about the father of the baby, what does he feels
about pregnancy”? She became angry. “He is happy about my pregnancy. He made me
pregnant purposely to tie me to him.” I asked her what she knew about
development of the baby in the womb and whether she wanted to have information
about it. She wanted to have information about abortion procedure to see how she
could handle it. I started from showing her the tiny baby models and explaining
what was happening with the baby during abortion. At this point she looked at me
and asked the question: “You are trying to persuade me to keep the baby. You
don’t do abortion here, do you?” I had to admit we don’t. But no one can
persuade her, she is free in her choice. She can talk here about all her
concerns and we together can look at her options, to evaluate what she could
loose and what she could gain in every particular choice she’ll make. We started
from the choice of abortion. At some point she said that yesterday she prayed to
God about her situation. “What did God tell you? – I asked. – To do abortion”, -
she answered, - “ God couldn’t tell that, - I said, - He gave us command not to
kill. He doesn’t change his mind according to situation. But God did hear your
prayer, and He led you to our center to direct your steps”. I showed her the
Psalm 139. She started to cry, seeing that God involved in her life and in life
of the baby. “I will carry this child, I want a girl, - she said. We will go to
Russia to Sasha’s mother. She is a believer. She will love a granddaughter”.
The switch was on 180 degree. “Do you want me to talk to your boyfriend?” –
“Yes, you can”. I asked Sasha to come in for a few words. He was happy Karina
changed her mind. He said that when he saw at the entrance the sign “Charity
foundation”, he got hope, that there would be people who could speak to Karina
in behalf of the baby, because she didn’t want to hear him. I explained to him
that during pregnancy women could be emotionally unstable. And she needed his
support to hear the confirmation of being loved. He said that she was not
emotionally stable even before pregnancy that sounded true. But he wanted to do
his best. We agreed they would come next Tuesday again.
How easy to run into wrong decision, how
easy to make the greatest mistake in your life, how easy to find abortion and
how devastated it could be. 3 days, 5 days, no time to get in touch with your
heart, to get in touch with the heart of the other person. But how great is the
mercy of God and His kindness to get through our darkness and illusions, to
reach and save. “Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you and you
will honor me”. Psalm 50:15 Thank you God
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